{"id":18969,"date":"2021-01-01T09:00:00","date_gmt":"2021-01-01T14:00:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/sasee.wpenginepowered.com\/?post_type=essay&p=18969"},"modified":"2024-03-26T15:08:36","modified_gmt":"2024-03-26T19:08:36","slug":"happiness-doesnt-have-wrinkles","status":"publish","type":"essay","link":"https:\/\/sasee.com\/ro\/essay\/happiness-doesnt-have-wrinkles\/","title":{"rendered":"Happiness Doesn\u2019t Have Wrinkles"},"content":{"rendered":"

I feel self-care means preventing loneliness, preventing irrelevance, preventing mental stagnation by engaging in activities that promote one\u2019s self-esteem.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n\n\n\n

Le Bonheur n \u2019a pas de Rides isn\u2019t easy reading if you\u2019re not French. In it are idioms and slang of a present-day 34-year-old French writer, who self-published her novel about an 85-year-old woman, who gets stuck in an old folks\u2019 home in the middle of nowhere.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Why try to decipher this newly published book when you need to consult a Larousse dictionary every couple of words? Your time at the university studying French Literature was forty-five years ago. At your age, wouldn\u2019t it be more practical to learn how to knit booties for grandkids or attend a Williams-Sonoma cooking demonstration, or lift weights at a fitness center? Isn\u2019t it more enjoyable to sail off on a Rhine River cruise with retired folks whose biggest worry is missing reduced priced drinks at happy hour and then maybe tripping over the high thresholds for the WC or perhaps fretting over whether your accouterments for pool aerobics are \u201cau courante\u201d enough? Wouldn\u2019t it be more satisfying to spend energy on volunteering to teach ESL at your local public school or sorting gently used clothing at the PTA Thrift Shop or altruistically nailing on roofs for Habitat?<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Perhaps the answer to all the above questions is a resounding \u201cOui,\u201d \u201cBien Sur,\u201d \u201cAbsolument!\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Yet, there comes a time in one\u2019s life when one wants to do what makes a person happy, not necessarily what everyone thinks one should do when one reaches such-and-such age.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

At Duke University is a program called OLLI, which is the acronym for Osher Lifelong Learning Institute; this continuing education program is geared toward retired folks who want to learn for the love of learning. All sorts of classes are offered, and the fee is extremely reasonable. If you desire to learn Qigong or how to work your digital camera, or master magic tricks for grandparents, or become versed in the plays of Henrik Ibsen, there\u2019s a class for you. These few mentioned here comprise a small part of the multitude of diverse selections available for the taking!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Often, when people think of self-care, images of physical activity, psychological therapy, medical treatments, massages, or cosmetic procedures come to mind. But when I hear the words \u201cself-care,\u201d my mind leaps to learning. I like to expand on what I learned long ago. I feel self-care means preventing loneliness, preventing irrelevance, preventing mental stagnation by engaging in activities that promote one\u2019s self-esteem. For me, there\u2019s nothing that makes me feel prouder of myself than listening to a French speaker and grasping the content of his words, or reading a foreign book and understanding the story in its original language, or conversing in a strange tongue \u2013 not my native one \u2013 but one learned the hard way \u2013 one \u201cmot\u201d at a time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

To me, feeling good about myself means accomplishing something \u2013 a \u201cfait accompli!\u201d And that\u2019s my definition of self-care. Perpetual learning is how I practice self-care.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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