My husband and I stopped at an estate sale a couple of weeks ago. The house was a pretty, well-maintained colonial\u2013a family home. As we walked up the driveway, I noticed a multitude of flower stakes that dotted hibernating flower beds. A small table and two wrought iron chairs sat waiting for a warm spring morning to hold a cup of coffee and a plate of breakfast scones. Beyond the designated side entrance, several green dumpsters loomed awaiting their final meal of discarded treasures.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Entering the kitchen, we walked around people sifting through tables of vintage kitchen and dining-ware. \u201cWould you take forty dollars for this set of china?\u201d someone asked a teen-aged boy supervising the area. The elegant service for twelve was carefully packed in foam sleeves; one complete setting sat next to it for inspection. It was marked at $200. I picked up a cup and found the \u201cLenox\u201d mark\u2013a steal at the asking price, larceny at the offered price. Although I love a bargain, I hoped the answer would be no.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
\u201cI\u2019ll have to check with the daughter,\u201d the young man said and called to a middle-aged woman. \u201cSusan\u201d approached the table, and for a moment, she didn\u2019t say anything. She ran her finger over the rim of a plate and said, \u201cSure.\u201d I couldn\u2019t tell if she was angry, sad, or simply resolute.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I continued through the house in search of books, my go-to at any store or event. The shelf-lined study was a gold mine. I picked up several leather-bound classics and a first edition Stephen King book. I was thrilled. As I waited to pay for my finds, I noticed a hand-carved frame with a picture of the family. The daughter\u2019s face was recognizable as a child. I picked it up and added it to my purchases.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I passed Susan on the way out the door. \u201cThank you,\u201d I said at a loss for the appropriate words. Remembering the picture, I pulled it out of my bag.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I think you may have missed this,\u201d I said pointing to the photo. I attempted to loosen the backing of the frame when she stopped me. \u201cI have several copies; you can just put it in the garbage. This has been the hardest part. Disposing of my parents\u2019 things has been emotionally overwhelming. At first, I wanted to keep everything, and now, I just need it to be gone.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
On the way home, I thought about the woman\u2019s words. I couldn\u2019t imagine people walking through my home, going through my things, wondering if a dollar was too much for a box of broken arrowheads or a priceless souvenir fish covered with tiny seashells. Exactly what was the difference between an heirloom and a keepsake? Would these tiny gifts of love, worth more than money, be deemed junk to my grandchildren?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Of course, I knew the answer. I could form an emotional attachment to a rock. I had a lot of work to do to keep the \u201cwhat do I do with Grandma\u2019s junk\u201d from happening to my own family.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I decided I would do a deep purging; I needed to be ruthless with my culling. I delegated one large rubber bin per adult child to hold the objects I found to be emotionally or financially significant. I started a notebook with information regarding the contents and why it should not be devoured by a hulking dumpster or examined by bargain hunting strangers.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I arranged all my first edition books by my favorite authors in one section of my bookshelves. One of my children would need to incorporate them into their libraries. The idea of a stranger folding the corner of the crisp, unmarred pages made me cringe.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
I pulled out my cherished Royal Doulton china purchased by my parents in 1962. My mother had used the dishes once or twice. Like her, I had never used the beautiful dishes for fear of breaking a piece. What was I saving it for? When I asked my daughter if she would like to have it someday, she asked if it could go in the dishwasher. As I took the gold gilded plate from her hands, I vowed to use them at least once a week. It would make my meatloaf look fancy and taste fabulous.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
The backs of old photos were labeled and neatly stacked. I\u2019m sure I have a couple of decades to organize them into albums. Or, maybe, I will leave them \u201cas is\u201d inviting my family to discover their ancestors as they sort through the pile.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Milk glass candy dishes, expensive crystal vases, and the Hummel figurines that were gifted to me by relatives were boxed for donation. It was time to find them a new home where they would be displayed and appreciated instead of being just a pleasant memory.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
At the end of the week, both containers were half-filled leaving plenty of room for the treasures to come. And, I had free space that hadn\u2019t seen the light of day in years. I had spent hours re-reading old letters and remembering the past. The anxiety over my life\u2019s collection of special moments had dissipated.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Was it a keepsake or heirloom? It didn\u2019t matter. I had unconsciously saved the objects that mattered to my heart. My children will choose what touches theirs. They will choose well. It\u2019s in the genes.<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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